I realize I am very late to the game, but I finally dove into and devoured The Life Changing Magic of Not Giving a F*ck. Sarah Knight had me laughing out loud on multiple occasions.
I know some people are turned off by the idea of “self help” books because they assume reading one means they’re inadequate. If you’re one of these people, I’m here to tell you that’s not the case. So let’s get over that one real quick so you can experience the *magic* of this book.
The premise: doing less of what you don’t want to be doing so you can spend more time, energy, and money on what you actually enjoy.
Who doesn’t want that? It’s a simple notion that initially seems hard to incorporate into your life because as a society we’re so used to “giving f*cks” to things we don’t actually “give a f*ck” about. This is where Sarah comes in to save the day and breaks it down into “On giving, and not giving, a f*ck”, “Deciding to not give a f*ck”, “Not giving a f*ck”, and “The magic of not giving a f*ck dramatically transforms your life.” She goes into detail about giving or not giving a f*ck in terms of work, family, friends, etc. (with real life examples). She also explains how to not give a f*ck without being an asshole — VERY important.
It is such an easy read because it’s written as if Sarah is talking to you. She’s also a master of conveying a message in more than one way. Specifically, she understands that some people are visual learners (like myself) and includes charts, depictions, lists to make sure you know what she’s talking about.
By the end of the book, you’re left with things you don’t give a f*ck about and things you do. These are not set in stone, and you may find your lists change as you do, which Sarah makes a point of noting is totally acceptable.
A note from page 188:
“…I realized that everyone’s path to enlightenment is paved by a unique combination of f*cks given and not given, and that one person’s joy can easily be another person’s annoy.
And that’s okay. Your f*cks are yours — to value and prioritize and give as you see fit.”
Sarah writes that she doesn’t give a f*ck about family drama, having a “bikini body”, Iceland, coworker’s opinions, and greek yogurt (to name a few). She does give a f*ck about climate change, hummus, laser hair removal, and Reese Witherspoon’s Instagram. I don’t give a f*ck about baseball, celebrity gossip, being tan, and watching the news. I do give a f*ck about nutrition, good lighting, chick flicks, and mental health.
What don’t you give a f*ck about? Figure it out, it’s therapeutic beyond belief.